I'm Still Here
Really, I am. There hasn't been a whole lot to tell lately. Just work. And snuggles with my Bug. I will post pictures soon.
The biggest news is we are having some drama with BIL. The long and short of it is that BIL is bent that we won't take his "good advice" and buy a house that we can't afford near him, 40 miles north of here. It means nothing to him that we don't want to move north. And we wouldn't be that excited about the traffic we would get stuck in to drive to work. What is particularly ridiculous is that BIL moved north because he didn't want to commute to work anymore (and his commute was against traffic). Of course, it's perfectly fine for us to have to commute and deal with traffic. I think not.
So anyway, G told his brother that we didn't want to move and that he didn't mind driving north the few times a year that we all get together. BIL took this as meaning that G was content to see his family only a few times a year. As BIL has these romanticized notions about being a very close knit family spending lots of time together, he didn't take this well.
This has been going on for awhile. A few weeks ago, I called BIL's wife to ask after what the kids might want for Christmas. We made some small talk and then she said this:
So we are hosting Thanksgiving this year. We didn't know if you were going to be out of town or doing something with your family or just planning on seeing everyone at Christmas, but you are welcome to come. It will be pretty low key.
She kept sort of talking around things and her half-hearted invitation. I said thank you very much for extending the invitation but I would have to check with G. Then we talked about Bug for awhile and got off the phone.
According to G's mom, who spoke to BIL's wife the following day, the invitation wasn't really an invitation. Rather, it was her attempt to invite me into a heart to heart about the disagreement between G and BIL. It would have been nice of her to tell me this. In any event, we are not going to their house for Thanksgiving and I will making my very first turkey for myself, G, Bug, and Uncle Jeff.
G is going to start a dialogue with BIL's wife in an attempt to clear things up so things aren't too tense at Christmas. It should be interesting.
The biggest news is we are having some drama with BIL. The long and short of it is that BIL is bent that we won't take his "good advice" and buy a house that we can't afford near him, 40 miles north of here. It means nothing to him that we don't want to move north. And we wouldn't be that excited about the traffic we would get stuck in to drive to work. What is particularly ridiculous is that BIL moved north because he didn't want to commute to work anymore (and his commute was against traffic). Of course, it's perfectly fine for us to have to commute and deal with traffic. I think not.
So anyway, G told his brother that we didn't want to move and that he didn't mind driving north the few times a year that we all get together. BIL took this as meaning that G was content to see his family only a few times a year. As BIL has these romanticized notions about being a very close knit family spending lots of time together, he didn't take this well.
This has been going on for awhile. A few weeks ago, I called BIL's wife to ask after what the kids might want for Christmas. We made some small talk and then she said this:
So we are hosting Thanksgiving this year. We didn't know if you were going to be out of town or doing something with your family or just planning on seeing everyone at Christmas, but you are welcome to come. It will be pretty low key.
She kept sort of talking around things and her half-hearted invitation. I said thank you very much for extending the invitation but I would have to check with G. Then we talked about Bug for awhile and got off the phone.
According to G's mom, who spoke to BIL's wife the following day, the invitation wasn't really an invitation. Rather, it was her attempt to invite me into a heart to heart about the disagreement between G and BIL. It would have been nice of her to tell me this. In any event, we are not going to their house for Thanksgiving and I will making my very first turkey for myself, G, Bug, and Uncle Jeff.
G is going to start a dialogue with BIL's wife in an attempt to clear things up so things aren't too tense at Christmas. It should be interesting.
posted by JenL at
11:19 AM
3 Comments:
passive agressive family members are my favorite.
pictures of bug please!
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dizzy von damn!, at 12:45 PM
:) I second Miss K. And third and fourth her. I find that the P/A family members are the ones that get cut off the quickest. Aurgh. I sawwy.
AND, we need Bug pix. Really. She's probably all grown up and going to college already!
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MonkeyGurrrrrl, at 2:13 PM
Dude, BIL and his wife are weird.
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